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I
recently ran across Dana Serrano Chilholm’s column about
the grant funding for embryo adoption awareness. I just wanted
to say that I enjoyed reading it and hearing about your part as
well as your perspective.
I
recently went through a training for the Infant Adoption Awareness
campaign and learned a lot and thoroughly enjoyed it as well.
I volunteer at a Pregnancy Resource Center here in my home town
as well as being a labor doula and a nurse.
I
am also a mother of a two-year-old that we conceived through in
vitro, just three years ago. I was married for ten years and had
three wonderful children. I had a tubial legation after my youngest
son and then two years later their father and I divorced. I married
a man that didn’t have children and my physician suggested
that we do in vitro verses surgery to repair my tubes. Since I
had never had infertility issues, I responded very well to the
medications. In fact, my ovaries over stimulated. They retrieved
over 30 eggs off of my ovaries. (Typically they aim for 8-10.)
They transferred two and one took and that is how we have our
two year old, Aaron! However, it leaves us with 15 embryos. Only
17 grew enough to be frozen and that’s why we have only
15.
My
OB was very wise because he sat my husband and myself down before
we began the process and told us how we needed to discuss some
things before we moved any further in the process. For one, he
told us that we should decide first how far we would be willing
to go, as far as how many attempts. He also told us that we needed
to decide what we would like to do with the embryos, should we
have any left over. That’s when I started researching. Then
one morning on my way to work, I was listening to Dr. James Dobson
and he talked about Snowflake, the embryo adoption program through
Nightlight Christian Adoption Services. I knew right then, that
was our answer. I called my husband and told him all about it
and we discussed it more and both agreed, that’s how we
wanted to handle it, if we should have any left over.
I
will be turning 37, so I feel as though my days are numbered as
far as being successful with in vitro. I am in the process of
loosing some weight and we are planning on attempting one more
time some time next year. After that, we know that we will donate
our other embryos.
I
went to Nightlight’s website and was looking at the pictures
of the babies and I was over come by bitter sweet thoughts and
feelings. I truly believe and I know that my husband agrees as
well that we would be very selfish to keep them frozen indefinitely.
If we donate, then we are giving another couple a chance to be
parents and giving them the opportunity to experience pregnancy,
something that we both enjoyed experiencing together. I really
don’t know why I am sharing all of this with you, but after
reading Dana’s article, I just felt like you might enjoy
knowing that it’s being read and appreciated.
Angie
Layman
Texas
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